My son who was in 4th grade last year was telling me about how girls in his class are wearing makeup. I swear my jaw hit the floor. I was in complete shock, I know when I was in school the idea of wearing makeup was for Halloween or dress up at HOME. So I was thinking well a little lip gloss(which we didn't start until at least 6th grade) I guess isn't so bad. Nope, he goes on to tell me they are wearing mascara, eye liner etc. Now keep in mind this is a few not all the girls but still. I remember looking forward to when I would be be able to wear makeup and I wasn't really able to until 8th grade, yes I snuck the occasional eye shadow or lipstick before that but it wasn't a daily thing. I guess I don't see the point of why ANY 4th grader really needs or should be allowed to wear it on a daily basis. Yes I will get the well it's my child my decision and I agree it is but my question other than she likes it is why? Don't we complain how much Hollywood and the media says we should look a certain way? Well isn't allowing your young daughter to wear makeup doing the same thing? Isn't it telling her that you are prettier with this, or you need to value your looks (not talking hygiene I am a firm believer in hygiene) I know growing up we were taught it's what's on the inside not the outside that counts?
Why are we letting our kids grow up so fast and why aren't we keeping their innocence as long as we can? I understand it's a fine line between being over protective and protecting your kids and I understand there's a real word out there, but there's a difference between letting them see the real word and letting them live in it. It also struck me as crazy when my son (same one) tells me he has a girlfriend..."that's nice, wait what?" That's right my 4th grader had a girlfriend and apparently it wasn't his first. He went through all this drama with another girl because if he didn't do what she wanted she'd "break up with him". Now after I got through laughing hysterically at the idea of my tween son (who opposes almost anything anyone tells him to do) waiting hand and foot on a girl I got to thinking wow. I was pretty sure in 4th grade boys still had cooties. It was time that we talked. I asked him why he felt he should have a girlfriend at such a young age. As it turns out he said that some of the other kids were. That led to the conversation of why he thought he needed too and was it really that important. I mean he 10 we don't live in a neighborhood so it's not like he can ride his bike to her house or go on any "dates" and he rarely uses the phone so it's not like they spend a lot of time talking. So yes I understand it's an innocent thing but again what worries me is the drama involved with it. Tommy was mad at Brad for dating so and so Sally wasn't talking to Sue etc(names are not real). I asked him if he even liked all the issues and he admitted he didn't and instead of replaying our entire conversation and make this post even longer our conversation ended with HIM deciding that he can wait to date and he has the rest of his life to worry about that.
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